Do you need a coach?

I’m fascinated about the fact that everybody seems to be a coach now days. Even the people who doesn’t have any results to show of previous success. In Sweden all unemployed can get a coach to get a job. Those coaches was recruited from the registered unemployment force with a lot of governmental funding, these people don’t know how to get a job.I see people who talk about success this and how to accomplish that and they haven’t even accomplished it themselves. That’s ridiculous.

I often hear people give advices about relationships and they have a long list of unsuccessful relationships in the luggage. The only thing they know is how NOT TO DO IT!

We all do mistakes and most people learn something by them. We try something else and then we succeed and can claim to have experience from the process. But before you have succeed there’s no proof for it. By success I mean the desired outcome.

So when you feel in need of a coach, trainer, mentor, role model or whatever you want to call it, find someone who have been there done that. If they done what you want to achieve you copy their concept, if not don’t bother. If it’s a really good one they will coach you to do even better then their own success. Then you should listen carefully and you probably going to get their a lot faster by modeling their process.

What is Self Confidence?

Taken for granted, never had, always there, like the stock market up and down, depending on the circumstances and so on. or what?

In my opinion it’s something that can be taught and should be maintained consistently. Build it on former achievements and success and extend it into bigger challenges to develop and grow. If it never gets trialed or set back you might end up overconfident or even arrogant.

Time for a lesson

That’s unhealthy but normally we get our shares of challenges which I think is a good thing. Same  principle as in working out, first you break the muscle down and then you add some nutrition and rest to make the muscle bigger and/or stronger.

So when you get your setbacks and starts to lose self confidence just remember to realize that you need some building blocks and rest to come out stronger than before and that’s a good thing.

Be grateful, smirk and appreciate events, just like i did myself the other week!

Learn more about how to GET CONFIDENCE

Back to Basics

Last couple of weeks I got a good lesson in my own teachings. I focus a lot to build a strong foundation in everything I do. Many people get frustrated by this and ask for the outcome right now. They want to have the next technique or the product delivered A.S.A.P because that’s how they want it for some reason. Especially the people who got tired of being in the middle and want to advance to the next level.  The funny thing though is that the higher you want to reach the stronger foundation you need. That goes for marketing, business building and competitors. High goals demands big investments and preparations in all levels.

So back to my story and what happened to me. I did set some really bold goals this year and has been really committed to follow through. So committed that I started to lean to much forward with all my weight on the front foot. In martial arts that can be risky when someone fires back at you because you get to vulnerable and can’t deal with the shots. I got some shots in the form of tickets, speeding, parking and improper tires for OSLO in less than two days. That’s a really bad day at the office and it made me settle down a little bit. I can chose to complain about how unfair life is or look at it as a lesson, guess what I chose?

Time to slow down to avoid being knocked out because then I will never reach my goal. Next thing is to take care of my basics to avoid unnecessary mistakes to be able to maintain the pace I prefer to keep. So that’s the foundation for my goals, back to basics.

We all do mistakes, but only the fools repeat them!